- Why can't I keep up with the rest of the world?
- Am I boring?
- Am I a bad person for lacking the energy to be publicly involved in important causes?
- What keeps me out of the inner circles—and why do I suspect that if I got in, I'd be forever exhausted?
- Is my need for silence, books, and process time an unhealthy thing?
- Why does anyone like loud music?
- Am I the only one who couldn't shut their eyes and describe what everybody in the room is wearing?
- Why won't the person sitting by me in this airplane stop talking?
- Why do people bother with the telephone for non-urgent concerns when there's email?
8. We are not broken extroverts.But I also strongly appreciated number 10, which pointed out that being lost in our own thoughts does not amount to being self-absorbed:
Really. We’re not. Stop trying to fix us already.
"We are self aware, which is an entirely different thing. The thing is, when we are alone, we’re not just thinking of ourselves and our feelings, we’re thinking of you and your feelings, the human condition, society, spiritual matters, in general, pondering deep thoughts."Self-absorption happens to all humans, including me. But—amen. Usually, my silence means I'm overtired, writing a book in my head, and/or trying to solve the problems of the universe.
All of the ten myths and responses interested me. Some time ago, I gave up worrying about the fact that it takes me a long time to think through things, that I don't have a lot of physical or emotional energy, that I'll never really be popular or much sought after. Introversion and its attendant limitations and difficulties give me nearly every strength I have in areas of focus, depth, compassion, perseverance. It also makes me who I am as a writer. It's not a problem; it's simply a set of boundaries that I must live by or abide the consequences.
Those consequences are real and serious. I once ran them all the way up to severe depression. That isn't something I care to try again.
With the ten myths adequately dispelled, commenter Carin Bramsen corrected another big misunderstanding: introverts are not milquetoasts. No, we are not. Extroverts may fight like tigers, but introverts fight like a stone wall. We won't move to stop your free rambles, but we protect our sacred ground.
Of course, there are a few other myths to be handled, such as introverts lead a boring life (that's entirely a matter of personal preference—I haven't been bored outside the Department of Licensing in a number of years), or, simply, introverts are boring (if you've made it this far down my blog-post, I hope you'll disagree.) There's also the idea that introverts are uncommunicative (Blogs and email are God's gift to introverts—a way to communicate at leisure), and I'm sure there are more.
Are you an introvert? Do you know one well enough to understand them? What do you wish the outgoing three-quarters of the populace knew about the quiet sector?