- Katherine Coble talks about modesty and too much shame. Teaching your girls to be sensible about how they dress is one thing; teaching them that their bodies are inherently to blame for male lust is another.
- Rage Against the Minivan responds, thoughtfully and wisely, to the recent viral modesty post.
- Fellow homeschooling veteran Naomi Boyer details her lifelong struggle with fashion.
|Me in the glory days of dreadful.|
Photo cropped oddly to
protect the innocent.
[<= This was the most embarrassing photo I could come up with on short notice. But there was a worse one in a national homeschooling magazine once. :P]
I learned how not to relate to men instead of how to. I learned that my life was designed to revolve around marriage and childbearing; everything else was just stuff to kill time with till The Right One came along. As you can imagine, those two lessons weren't designed to mix well. To this day, I'm nervous and self-conscious around young men, unduly fearful of their dislike and anxious for their praise.
In brutal honesty: I got off easy. Domineering men often gravitate toward submissive, dependent girls. They're easy to control. I've seen it happen.
Homeschooling parents: you're doing good, hard work in the world, and I'm aware that you have enough battles to fight without me giving you a complex. But please, please teach your girls—especially your cautious ones—to find and pursue interests, including interests outside the home. To look for good work to do and to do it confidently. To smile and converse with and befriend boys as well as girls. To hold their heads up and look men in the eyes as equals, choose husbands who respect women, and give those husbands their respect out of choice, not out of instinct and fear. Feminism wouldn't be so popular if there weren't at least some truth to it. This is some of that truth.
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Cute fix! First, the cat picture:
Second: my family has an unbelievable number of baby bunnies all of a sudden, and I couldn't resist grabbing the camera and sharing the love.
|Middle set. I love how they sleep in a big jumble like this.|
|The littlest set. I think this grey/cinnamon coloring is the most beautiful thing.|
|Here's looking at you, kid.|
|The oldest set....|
|...playing in their grass run with an umbrella for shade.|
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Music of the week: I'm feeling light and rocky, and I like these young people's a capella arrangement of the Cups song. You know, I never did master that game. Summer staff retreat just wasn't long enough. :)
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